What effects your feelings are your emotions. Emotions are just an instruction that the body gets ‘told’ to ‘act’ out and you get a feeling as a result. A warm flush, a spine tingle, maybe even a shiver. This feeling is quickly followed by a conscious thought. That conscious thought is usually as clear as mud and thus we find it difficult to understand what we are feeling.

To clean out the mud in our thoughts, we need to have a clear understanding and definition of what each emotion is. Thus, when an emotion is triggered and instructs a particular feeling to occur, we know exactly what the feelings is and why we are feeling it because we defined what the emotion should do.

Can we change our emotions? Yes. Can we do it now? Yes. Is it hard? Yes, but, if you are enthusiastic about being able to control how you feel and you desire to be a better person then you will find it that much easier.

How? I have started writing about this subject at my website, www.timchard.com - myEmote . Read about how your Thought Process works and look up some important terms and definitions in my Dictionary .

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Tim

You may need to read this entry on ‘The Pointed Finger’.

First of all, pick out a tiny spec on the wall closest to you and point at it. Point to that spec and say ‘you just never listen to me’. Now, while you are pointing, take a close look at your hand. You have one finger pointing at the spec on the wall and three others are pointing back at you. You have just been introduced to ‘The Pointed Finger’.

In life we often find plenty of things to blame on other people. Usually it is our spouse or partner who cops most of these errant complaints. The Pointed Finger concept works like this; Whatever aspect I want my fellow to improve in, I must remember that because those three fingers are pointing back at me, I have to improve myself in that particular aspect three fold.

We cannot consciously change the behaviour of our partner, but we can influence them to reflect our Emotions. It took me years to understand that. I was continually thinking to myself that my wife was exhibiting some of the same crap traits as myself and I didn’t like it one little bit. I complained to her in no uncertain terms that she had to change. I was not going to put up with two of us acting like morons. Then came ‘The Pointed Finger’ concept.

Eventually, I realised that she was indeed reflecting my State of Emotions. I set about changing me and now I believe I can say that it was worth every drop of effort. Remembering that our partners and friends reflect our Emotional State can go someway to identifying things we want to change within ourselves. If it gets to the point where you are frustrated with your partners actions and you need to point the finger at them, take a deep breath and realise that it is more likely you that needs to change. It takes far less energy to change yourself than it does to try in vain to change someone else.

Tim Chard

It been too long since my last post. I do apologize. I now have writing fever again, my temps a little high, but my fingers are itching to tap, tap, tap.

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