How are your Emotions
So you are trying to de-tangle your feelings. You can partly describe how you feel, but you are finding it difficult if not impossible to understand why you are feeling a certain way.
What effects your feelings are your emotions. Emotions are just an instruction that the body gets ‘told’ to ‘act’ out and you get a feeling as a result. A warm flush, a spine tingle, maybe even a shiver. This feeling is quickly followed by a conscious thought. That conscious thought is usually as clear as mud and thus we find it difficult to understand what we are feeling.
To clean out the mud in our thoughts, we need to have a clear understanding and definition of what each emotion is. Thus, when an emotion is triggered and instructs a particular feeling to occur, we know exactly what the feelings is and why we are feeling it because we defined what the emotion should do.
Can we change our emotions? Yes. Can we do it now? Yes. Is it hard? Yes, but, if you are enthusiastic about being able to control how you feel and you desire to be a better person then you will find it that much easier.
How? I have started writing about this subject at my website, www.timchard.com - myEmote. Read about how your Thought Process works and look up some important terms and definitions in my Dictionary.
I will be adding more and more topics as time permits. You can subscribe, and I will let you know when new topics have been added. Also if you find the info helpful, tell your friends or family by using the Recommend link under the Google search.
Tim
Added by TimC April 7, 2008 (12:41AM)
Tami on April 7, 2008 (12:47AM)
Your insight is appreciated.
Your first paragraph hit it on the nose for me, and often times Im just too scared to go there. I'd say my emotions are pretty stuffed, only to leak out on occasion and in a sense often poison me.
I'm following your Emote. In the web of detangling maybe I will gain some understanding.
TimC on April 7, 2008 (12:55AM)
If you don't mind me asking Tami, what could be hidden in your emotions that would scare you? Is it that you are scared or you don't like how you feel when certain thoughts come into your conscious mind? Do these thoughts make you ver and shudder? You see, our emotions effect our feelings. That is to say that an emotion, when 'activated' causes you to feel a certain way.
It was only this morning that I was about to post the paragraph below, but now it is for you.
What we refer to as Emotions are in fact chemicals in our brain. The more emotions that are referred to in a thought the more chemicals that are expressed. The more chemicals that are expressed the more complex the chemical soup becomes. This chemical 'soup' results in us feeling completely and utterly confused. If we continue to feed our brain this complex chemical soup, I believe we will experience a controlled brain shutdown. The shutdown being in direct proportion to complexity of the chemical 'soup', which is then perceived by those around us as a form of 'Mental Illness'. This 'Mental Illness' can be compared to a warning 'light' like the ones on the dash in the car. It will continue to be 'lit' until the cause is corrected.
If you have a scratch on your leg, you apply a bandaid. If you have a broken arm, you have it put in a cast. If you have a cough, you swallow some medicine. We apply the needed treatment for the particular problem. So to, it is with our minds warning 'light'.
Think for a moment on the thoughts that make you feel terrible. What are they? Don't tell me, but acknowledge the thoughts by writing them down. Now write down how you feel when you are having these thoughts. Look at the lists and consider whether if a friend had given you this list and it was about them, would you believe that the feelings were indicative of the thoughts?
Now, I want you to consider these thoughts. If we are to move forward, we must let go of what is holding us back. What holds us back, is that we hang onto the wrong parts of our memories. You see, our goal in life should be to learn from every step we take, good or bad. If the memory is a bad one and keeps repeating itself in our thoughts and/or dreams, all you have to do is flood it with positive emotions. Focus on an aspect of the memory, something that you wouldn't do again and say something like, 'I'm so glad I had this experience because now I realise that I don't want to do that ever again.' Praise yourself for being you and agree that although the experience may not be something you want to repeat, you are glad you had it because you have been able to learn from it and that makes you a much smarter person. Keep thinking, or replaying the memory, and apply this to each part that you find 'yugghhhh'.
Doing this will simplify your chemical soup and thus reduce the overload on your brain. There is no doubt that once you simplify one thought, another will come into focus and you will feel bad again. Just apply the above exercise. Over about a week or two, you will see that this new positive thought process will become more automated and as an old memory comes into focus in your conscious mind, you will almost imediately see what you have learned and appreciate the experience.
Tim
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